When we are growing up, we constantly hear the croon of those that are our senior how “fast time flies” or that “it seems like I was just changing your diapers yesterday.” Lo and behold, I’m just a few days away from welcoming my amazing pre-teen daughter into teen-dom.

And I am SO looking forward to it.

But it did just feel like yesterday.

It seems there are so many things that influence that perception of time, not the least of which is the speed of my own life. I think the amount of margin we carry in life affects it as well. Neither of these elements were very optimized during the first 10 years of my lovely daughter’s life. And it went FAST. I wish I was more present – and that’s not really referring to the physical sense – I worked from home. Physically present does not equal emotionally present.

The last few years have been a journey toward “better” – learning to be (and enjoying being) more present in relationships, even in the midst of less than optimal conditions (financial pressure, business commitments, emotional struggle, etc.) Just this week, I’m in the middle of a significant amount of pressures to deliver a project for a client, and I’m learning that presence does not come without a fight – when I let my guard down this week, the fog rolls in, and when my daughter shows me the beautiful dress she and mom just purchased for our date this saturday, I see it, am blown away by it, but it seems like a world so far away in that moment. If I continue to let that slip, by the time Saturday rolls around, I’ll be completely taken out by the event.

I must keep fighting! We all must. I have spent so much of my life letting my circumstances dictate my well being that it is easy to fall back on that behavior. Thankfully, circumstances are just that – circumstances – and they don’t define who we are are (but how we approach them often indicates who dwells within us.)

I’m really looking forward to ushering this amazing new teen into the world. It’s been fun to watch her gifts develop, and to do our best to provide an environment for those gifts to incubate with minimal distraction from the “expectations” of society.

Audiophiles tell us that one of the colorful words used to describe that a loudspeaker delivers a live, lifelike sound is “presence.” Isn’t that interesting, that a measurement of presences is the amount of life-likeness? Oh, I want to be that!

And to Aimee Cole, you are an amazing young lady, with a very diverse set of gifts and talents. Extremely artistic and creative ( and a Martial Artist as well (Tae Kwon Do Black Belt.) It’s so much fun to watch you live in your gifts, and see in you the joy that you get from that activity. I can’t wait to spend this weekend with you – present.




A love letter…

I am so amazingly in love with you –  and my love for you grows stronger with every day that I spend my life with you.  I begin each new day wondering what you have in store for both of us – what adventure will we complete this day, what challenge will we have to overcome that we can only overcome together. Yes, I even look forward to those things from my past that you bring up and force me to deal with – I know that working through those things only deepens the adventure, and beaks down any remaining parts of the wall that prevent me from fully knowing and experiencing you.

It wasn’t always like that, you and I…   Continue reading

Eating for Optimal Health, Part 1

I’ve been asked many times by people who have observed me losing 50 pounds this last year and a half (it actually does not have to take that long, “How did you do it?”

I love the question, and the answer is both an enjoyable one for me to deliver, and at the same time a source of great frustration. You see, I’m beginning to learn that, in many areas of life, “common knowledge” is not necessarily “correct knowledge.” Yet somehow in our society, we tend to elevate it to law very quickly.

In no area is that seemingly more true than in medical science, especially with regard to how we as humans should eat. You have the USDA food pyramid, with it’s base of grains, breads, and rice – and it’s recommendation to use fats and oils very sparingly. You combine that with the rest information they tell us ( who are THEY anyway ) and you get a low fat, high carbohydrate diet as what is optimal for our health.

So.. have you looked around lately? How have we done with this in the last 30 years? I think you will agree, we’ve failed. Or rather, the ‘diet’ has failed us, and failed us big time. This is why it’s so frustrating to me – when I offer assistance to someone to help them get on the right dietary track, I have to wade through the incredible amount of “common knowledge” that they’ve received through a myriad of channels in order to deliver the real truth about eating well.

I plan to bust myths regarding healthy eating in a series of articles (subject to change as I move along…)

1- It’s Not The Color Of Your Bread That Counts
2- Eating Fat Does Not Make You Fat
3- Eating Cholesterol Does Not Raise Your Cholesterol
4- A Thin Person Is Not Necessarily A Healthy Person

But first, let’s set the stage. I have followed Dr Eades for quite some time (long before implementing his recommendations.) As with many discoveries of truth, he was suspect of the ‘status quo’ of information that was prevalent at that time (and still is – it’s actually gotten worse.) He began to research on his own and, well, it’s best if you just hear it directly from him below. Have an open mind, and we’ll begin replacing “common knowledge” with truth in these next few articles. Warning: following along may cause you to implement new ways of eating, causing you to lose large amounts of weight, feel better, and enjoy eating in the process. And, you’ll have to help YOUR friends wade through the piles of misinformation and untruths being sold as “common knowledge.”

I’ve been wanting to share this with you all for a long time – I hope you enjoy the journey!

p.s. click the link to go to the site – it may be a bit easier to read in it’s original size…


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Do your job, do it well, make it fun!

Hi friends,

Sorry for the radio silence lately, lots ‘O stuff going on (mostly good.) Lots of partially completed posts hanging around, all fun stuff, we’ll get them up in due time for your perusal.

But for now, just a quick post. You all likely know that I have a passion for people working in their gifting. A past blog post about Benjamin Zander is a classic example.. I get “shiny eyes” every time I watch the clip.

I firmly believe that we all have an “offer” – that offer can show up in so many ways. As I’ve learned through my own experiences, your “offer” does not necessarily drive you to a vocation that “is” that offer. In other words, just because you’ve got a ‘knack’ for understanding people does not mean that you wear a title of “People Understander.” Your vocation is never enough to encompass who you are..

However, through creative means there are always let all that you are come out in your vocation…

Like being a great Musician, that can “rap” in an amazing, creative way, but just happens to be a Southwest Airlines Flight Attendant.

See for yourself below.. And we’ll catch you with a new post.. very soon!